Anger

4/1/17

“How do I stop being so angry?” Well…what if I told you that everything I ever accomplished was sprouted from a seed of anger? Even learning to heal myself and others….finding out Mother Nature was smarter than man….yes, even that was fueled by anger over how I was treated with drugs and doctors… What can YOU fuel to serve the greater good with your anger?

I’ve been getting a lot of questions from readers asking me what they can do to rid themselves of anger.  What I shared with them might be contrary to what we’ve been programmed by society to believe, but it is my opinion that anger is an extremely useful tool that can propel us to what we need and want in our lives.  I can attest that everything of value that I have attained during my life has been born out of anger. For example, I excelled in sports as a youth thanks to coaches and parents telling me that I wasn’t good enough which gave me the perseverance to work harder to prove them wrong and end up in a pretty well known sports museum. My venture into alternative radio and other projects was sparked by the injustice and slander I was forced to endure for exposing a sex trafficking ring and realizing the fact that law enforcement isn’t actually about enforcing laws…at least not against the law breakers and makers.  On the other hand, I can now see that my debilitating illnesses resulted from not freely expressing my anger and by being afraid of what other’s think. In a perfect world, the people who love or respect us or practice the spirituality they preach would understand that we’re human and that we have a right to be angry. Sadly, that’s not the world in which we live.      

Coffee with Christie

So, the answer to the initial question about ridding ourselves of anger is that we don’t get rid of it, we manage it by not trying to control it.  We must allow our passionate emotions to run their course because those feelings are there for a reason and if you continue to suppress them, they will eventually migrate to your liver or depending on how thick the suppression, perhaps your entire bloodstream.  When you find yourself becoming enraged over some perceived injustice, ask yourself how important it is in the overall scheme of things. Is it the end of the world because somebody cut you off in traffic? You may protest, “Christie, I have been deeply traumatized!”  I’ve experienced severe trauma too, so I get it.  In high school, I was gang-raped by people I believed to be my friends; people who still show up on TV being held up as role models for children.  At the time I felt justifiably angry, sad, and betrayed, but now I laugh it off. I’ve decided to use that rage and bitterness to explore new things and help other people rather than holding onto a grudge and battling it out for the rest of my life.  Because of this, I have been able to help many other victims recover from their trauma, whereas the others who have not experienced such great betrayal would rather just medicate their “friends.” Which do you think works better? Brain disabling drugs or compassion???

You may have been fucked over by somebody you loved and trusted but still, you lived through it, and I’m willing to bet that you’re now in a better situation. Maybe you finally got the push that you needed to realize that “negative” emotions are not of the “devil,” or beneath you and that you are human with a natural need to experience feelings.  If you’ve been holding onto anger for years or even decades, feel that pain, relive those situations, and then see those people who hurt you for what they are; narcissists, control freaks, and psychopaths.    

I can assure you that I am thankful for everyone who has ever fucked me over, tricked me, abandoned me, and betrayed me mostly because their plans to “destroy me” always backfired on them and they’ve only made me stronger.  Most of my life that I spent suppressing anger got me nowhere, but in the last couple of years, I have finally started to stand up for myself. Instead of getting angry I now see it as comedy and an opportunity for growth, and if somebody trespasses on my path again, I will assess the situation and use it to serve my needs in the best possible way.  Imagine a cute little furry kitty in the corner…So adorable and sweet and gentle. Well, watch that same kitty transform herself into a lion when her safety and comfort are threatened.

Use your anger wisely. It’s there for a reason.

What are your thoughts on anger? Can you share how you have used anger to fuel your inspiration to new heights?

Blessings and Love,

Christie Aphrodite