Loneliness

This blog is a loose translation of this Coffee with Christie Video.

Many of you reading this may be under the impression that I no longer experience loneliness because I have been alone for so long, but I would like to ask this… are any of us ever genuinely alone or is our alone time merely an opportunity to be “all-one” with ourselves?

When we feel lonely, we should ask why we are feeling that way and then reflect on our flawed beliefs and fears. People frequently remain in toxic relationships that aren’t good for them because they are afraid to be alone and I feel that’s quite sad. They will go on to try to mask their feelings of isolation with pills, TV, or other harmful endeavors instead of choosing to use that time to process their real natural feelings.

I have felt lonely most of my life, but I have allowed myself to feel the pain and abandonment and betrayal and loss, and then I’ve wallowed in it, sometimes staying in bed for days. And guess what? If I need to do that again today, I will! I will honor my body and the fact that I’m not alone because billions of cells and organisms are working diligently to help me breathe, blink my eyes, beat my heart, eliminate wastes and even tell me when I’m hungry so that I don’t die.

Realizing that you are never alone, but “all-one,” propels you forward to fulfill your dreams, wishes, and goals and to learn something new or experience different surroundings. Think about how many times you have felt alone in a crowd. Do you want to live alone with other people or break free and discover that which feeds your soul?

Get up and go outside and listen to the birds, or pick up some yarn and start crocheting, or take out a piece of paper and write down your thoughts!

Do you think the artists who created your favorite book or music were hanging out in large groups or did they find inspiration in their sacred space alone? I remember way back in elementary school coming home crying because nobody liked me. Well, that isolation gave me the time and desire to dive into the piano and create music or practice hard and wind up in a sports museum. It also gave me the courage to start my first restaurant at the age of twenty-three. By overcoming these adversities, I became more attractive to other people, and if I could’ve read their thoughts, I might have seen them thinking, “Ooh, she is confident. She’s developed herself. She doesn’t need me, but she still wants me.” How cool is that?

All humans wandering this plane have dependency and abandonment wounds and fears. Honor that and then work through it. Feel it and then do something you love. Utilize and celebrate your “All-Oneness.”

Blessings and Love,

Christie Aphrodite

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